Get a FREE 12 minute mini-training video: 3 Ways to Increase Your Self-Confidence!

Negativity Bias

Our brains are wired to be negative.
 
Nothing has gone wrong. They are working the way they are suppose to.
 
Our brains are simply wired to be looking for potential problems. It's sensitive to seeking out and avoiding potential pain.
 
It's why everyone gives more attention to bad news than good. Why you're harping on the one critiquing comment about your last presentation than the five positive ones you poopoo on.
 
We're wired to feel more the sting pain over the surge of joy.
 
Not only does it make us more likely to remember negative events, but more likely to dwell on them. Replaying it over and over sends us though it over and over. Which intensifies them. You only technically HAD to experience the thing once. Mentally dwelling sends you through the thing 996 more times, even though it's long over.
 
Evolutionarily speaking it's more important to remember the thing that hurt, so we can avoid it, than it is to remember...
Continue Reading...

Be where you are

It’s 9:15 AM… as usual my day started at 5:00. So far I’ve written and trashed a blog post, gotten myself showered and dressed. Spent 20 minutes looking for a replacement mop head online and collectively more time than I care to admit going without a mop because of said difficulty.

But despite a victorious end to the long-running mop head saga, I found myself disappointed with the results thus far in my day.

We do that don’t we? Right out of the gate… toothbrush is barely down and we’re off to action the hell out of our moments. Only to and turn around bewildered at the lack it all produced. Bewildered at a fruitless struggle. A struggle for catching the thoughts and conjuring the words. A struggle for conceptualizing the idea out of our heads.

Only to trash it anyway.

Feeling DONE already. Lacey and I hit the woods outside the house for a brief stroll. It’s my favorite place to catch up with myself. And I do.

I realize this morning,...

Continue Reading...
Close

50% Complete

Two Step

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit, sed do eiusmod tempor incididunt ut labore et dolore magna aliqua.