Feb 06, 2020
Our brains are wired to be negative.
Nothing has gone wrong. They are working the way they are suppose to.
Our brains are simply wired to be looking for potential problems. It's sensitive to seeking out and avoiding potential pain.
It's why everyone gives more attention to bad news than good. Why you're harping on the one critiquing comment about your last presentation than the five positive ones you poopoo on.
We're wired to feel more the sting pain over the surge of joy.
Not only does it make us more likely to remember negative events, but more likely to dwell on them. Replaying it over and over sends us though it over and over. Which intensifies them. You only technically HAD to experience the thing once. Mentally dwelling sends you through the thing 996 more times, even though it's long over.
Evolutionarily speaking it's more important to remember the thing that hurt, so we can avoid it, than it is to remember the good things.
So it would seem we're wired to have a much higher tolerance for positivity, or need more or very intense doses of it to get the same intensity level of good emotion, as we would negative emotion from one silly negative event. I think this could be why we're a bit numbed out. And we can think life, or parts of it are either crap or just "meh" or even just okay.
Call me Captain Obvious, but when we pay more attention to the negative things in life, it makes our life seem more negative. And the bad things seem more bad. The more you dwell, the more you put yourself through it unnecessarily. And the stronger the neural pathways are for bad things.
If you're thinking "Neat. We're screwed", I say not so fast.
Awareness is a powerful badass you need to invite in, my friends.
You don't have to believe the negative, as enticing as it is.
You don't have to succumb to the sucking-you-in powers of the mind-looping and dwelling.
Nothing has actually gone wrong.
Everything is happening just as it should.
I can help with this if you need it.